On the beach

This morning at the beach, I thought about a paradox that concerns many moms. The question is: why we keep the children without leaving them free swimsuit, how do you say, and we do not have the freedom to call their genitals with their name, or penis and vagina? We call upon all the body parts by their proper names: the elbow is his elbow, not the coccodrillino; the knee is the knee and not the ball! We call instead vagina pussy, butterfly, premium, chitarrina, ciccina, etc.; penis willy, Cucumber, pistolino, etc.. While at sea we find the genitals of our children, with these nicknames hide something. Say what?
Let's do a little exercise. While we're on baby-changing, dare to say aloud a simple sentence: Now wash the penis or vagina – in the case of a boy or of a girl. Immediately after listening to what moves inside us: closed stomach? We feel embarrassed? We have a feeling of dirt on him? If so, we are ashamed of having called the penis and the vagina by their proper names.
Shame is an emotion of the second degree, as they say in psychology, because it is not as instinctive fear - of First Instance - but transmitted. It means that we have "passed" when and what to feel shame. In this case, we called for many years the vagina and the penis pussy and penis – so we talked our parents, our grandfathers. The shame was transmitted through these endearments that really does nothing more than ridicule, reduce, detract from the intimacy of the child and the child until it in pieces. The penis and the vagina are parts of the body, such as the elbow and knee, but with education have assumed connotations "bad". And as all that is bad, name if nomina, you have to hide. So then hide a culture that knows how old and which has been inculcated without giving us the opportunity to choose whether to support it or not.
We have the specific task to be aware of the education that we impart to our children. In particular, I think it is essential to help them to appreciate their body without belittling or ridiculing, because only in this way in the future our children will be more likely to be men and women "in one piece", confident about themselves and their sexuality, respectful of their privacy and that of others. This paradox must be overturned: beach hide the genitals of children having to wear their swimsuit, every day we call freedom in the penis penis and vagina vagina.
For moms and dads advice shock therapy that will help: the reading of "The Vagina Monologues".