Women and oxen from your: they told me often!

The first time I left for a vacation in Thailand my closest friends (those high school, those that wickedness is in their DNA and which also after 20 years you insist on sharing the essential events of life) They were clear: "Stop fumarti canes and you're down to earth. You can not stay away a whole month, how do you work with?”. When I returned from my second trip and I told him that I was in love with a Thai, They have lost his mind: "I went to hallucinogenic mushrooms? Why not begin again to smoke the pipes?”. And then down with a thousand "that wants your money", "Already thinking of attacking the hat", "Just wants to come to Italy" and not least "because parties for a holiday in Cuba?"With a thin ironic that speaks for itself. I do not have spared half. A couple of years later, I put them in front of a fait accompli: "I'm pregnant, I'm getting married in Bangkok with Alee. Who wants to come? In April of giving birth and when the baby or the baby will have six months we moved ". I must say that at that time reacted with refinement and good heart, although later, It was joining the issues very dense with meaning and fears: "Or a Phuket? And what will you do over there? You studied a life to live where there is nothing?”; "You will be alone, with a little girl, and without the help of your parents ". And finally, the most pungent: "Married life is hard, you even speak the same language. Women and oxen from your, He means anything to you?”.

I met in Phuket in Alee 2010 and three years later I did a bang: marriage, I gave birth to our daughter and I moved. At once I faced three fundamental stages of a woman's life, during which difficulties, loneliness, depression are there outside the door.

The meeting with Alee has upset my life. Have you ever read on the web for those people who have left home, the job, deciding to live from their gardens perhaps through barter? Who do not use shampoo for hair, and soap if they do their? That contact with nature have found a sense of freedom and inner peace? That would not come back ever again live in concrete houses and to use the machine? Here: vi submit Alee, or at least its spirit. It does not have a smart phone, does not use Skype, It goes around without clock. Eat only rice and fish caught by himself or at most a few trusty friend. Does not drink coffee, beer, does not smoke. He does not like restaurants and bars packed. Alee breathe the smell of the air and tell me what time it is, looks at the sky and understand if it is raining. Talk to the animals and are intended - I heard with my own ears. And 'a man of another era, tied to the land and the sea, solitary and taciturn.

But I am coming from "your country": ho Iphone, Ipad e computer; use Skype and whatsapp even when the toilet; I eat only pizza, chips and mayonnaise; I love strong coffee and bitter; I love the bars packed, loud music and I like to do later; now they are 11 in the morning because the sun is high and my clock strikes 11. I am the result of all that the West and progress have put together, They are linked to thinking and writing poetry. The question comes naturally: What do I do with a person like Alee? O lui con me, means. Women and oxen from your.

Alee is a clear night in summer, a man at peace with himself ; io il sole d’agosto che picchia forte – sulle croste direbbero i miei amici – ansiosa, harassing, Repetitive. I like to describe as a principle Alee, in the sense of the essence. In addition to, I like to think that there are a thousand different ways of being a woman and being a man of a thousand other: poniamoli on a continuum, along which there's me and Alee. Ten years ago, Tsunami took away everything, home, la Barca. It was on the beach when a wave of ten meters after just devastated everything. Ten years ago, I iscrivevo to graduate school to become a psychoanalyst. I admit that I had a lot more in common with my ex, who lived in my own city, that after the master had obtained a permanent contract.

Women and oxen from your, I have often told friends. I have never, however, said that this other part of the world I would never feel alone during maternity; He would wake up for a feeding at night when I even understood to be in the world; during weaning would prepare the first meal; he'd fallen asleep whenever the breast would not be enough. I have never said that this quiet and lonely he would sing to her baby laughing and dancing that would have consoled; that would make up to five baby baths a day to give her relief from the sweltering heat. They were never told that he would choose the new clothes.

Women and oxen ...

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